My mother is deeply upset about my pregnancy. In the wake of the news she has said some ridiculous comments that I would have found rude had I not found it humorous. Here’s a few of them:

“You just want to live poor.” My response: “We are not poor, but we are not rich either. We manage.”

“You are almost 30 and you have nothing” My response: “I have a lot. I have two healthy kids, and a wonderful husband.” To which she replied, “If that’s what you want to think.”

And finally, “You are like an uneducated person, just having babies every year!”

I had no response to the latter statement. I mean, did that even dignify a response. Let’s put aside the fact that I have my Bachelor’s in Engineering and Master’s in Education… “uneducated!” It’s an insult to all mothers out there who have more than one child, and heaven forbid, if they had them within a couple of years from each other. My mother-in-law has six kids and I happen to think she is one of the smartest, most educated, woman out there. In fact, I bet she could give my mother a run for her money if their smarts were put to the test.

I understand that my mother’s comments stem from that fact that she is concerned about my financial security. With only one income and soon three kids to feed, we are cutting it very close, but Will and I are thinking about our financial future and have plans for it. Granted, it’s going to take a while before we meet our goals, but at least we are thinking about it. Sadly, my mother seems to think that you can not be happy unless you are rolling in dough. I happen to think that having all the money in the world does not make a person happy. Sure, it gives the person piece of mind, but happiness money cannot buy. And, although Will and I are not by any means rich, I can assuredly say that we are happy with what we have been blessed with. That’s all that matters to me.

So, for now, I just take my mother’s comments with a grain of salt and hope that she will eventually come around to realizing that having a baby, be it one, two, three, or more, is a gift and something that should be treasured not insulted. The money aspect of it will eventually work itself out. As my aunt says, “People have to start somewhere.” And, Will and I have definitely made a great start.